Category Archives: Humanity

Remembering Amalek…and Remembering to Return

D’var Torah at Judea Reform, March 18, 2016…

The Shabbat just before Purim is called shabbat zachor, the Sabbath of “Remember.” It gets its name from the opening words of a special Torah passage (Deut 25:17-19) which tells us to “remember what Amalek did to us on our journey.” As Purim approaches, we note the connection between Amalek and Haman, and many a sermon on Shabbat Zachor has called attention to the need for Jews to be ever-vigilant in the world, on guard against the oldest hatred of all. Continue reading

Reflections on the Detroit Debate: finding each other’s faces again

Last-Minute Larry. I came by my childhood nickname honestly, preferring the rush that accompanied a tight deadline to the calm sense of accomplishment that came with finishing my assignments early. Not much has changed, I guess. Sharon Halperin, who directs the Center for Holocaust, Genocide, and Human Rights Education of North Carolina gave us several weeks’ notice that we’d be welcoming teachers from around the state to our services this evening as part of their attendance at a two-day workshop entitled “Witnessing the Witnesses: Teaching the Holocaust in North Carolina.” Still, my message was crafted in the aftermath of this week’s Super Tuesday primaries. Oh, why deny it? My message was crafted in the aftermath of last night’s Republican debate on Fox. Continue reading

“Dealing shrewdly,” in ancient Egypt and present-day America

January 1, 2016

The Honorable Loretta E. Lynch
The Attorney General
Robert F. Kennedy Department of Justice Building
950 Pennsylvania Avenue Northwest
Washington, D.C. 20530-0001

Dear Madam Attorney General:

Six months ago to the day I had the privilege of spending ninety minutes with you on the campus of North Carolina Central University. Your office brought together law enforcement officials, clergy, and human rights leaders for a round-table conversation about justice and civil rights. Charleston had just happened, churches were burning, and the voting rights trial was about to commence in Winston-Salem. It happens to have been my first day on the job as as Rabbi of Judea Reform Congregation in Durham, so I remember it well.

Your charge to us in the room that day was to hold you and your department accountable and to keep the lines of communication open. It is for that reason that I write, adding my voice to the many others calling for a broadened investigation into the conduct of Cuyahoga County Prosecutor Timothy McGinty regarding the killing of Tamir Rice by Officer Timothy Loehmann. Tamir’s family deserves better than they received from the local authorities. If ever there were a case that cries out for a trial (at least), it is this one. Continue reading

From the Rabbi’s Study, January 2016

My January/February JRC Bulletin Message…

You shall not oppress a stranger, for you know the feelings of the stranger, having yourselves been strangers in the land of Egypt (Exodus 23:9)

For me, it’s that verse that most accurately describes the Jewish mission. To empathize with the marginalized, and to turn our empathy into action, is what we’re all about. Our texts, our holidays, our daily prayers….all of the particularly Jewish things about being Jewish point us toward that universal truth. Calling out oppression when we see it and standing with the oppressed against their tormentors: this is what it means to be a Jew. Continue reading


My installation remarks from Friday night, December 11. I had no idea, when I decided to craft these remarks around the seasons, and to teach about impermanence by looking to the trees, that our Religious School had created a huppah in my honor that teaches the very same thing, in the same way.  It was presented to the congregation as part of Sunday Morning’s Installation.

 Lots of folks have asked me, “Haven’t you been our Rabbi for quite some time? What changes on December 11?” And the answers are, “yes,” and “not much.” Certainly, some of the big transitional moments are already behind us. My election. Our first service together. Our first High Holidays. Other moments of transition are still out in the future. We haven’t yet celebrated Purim together, or Pesach, or Kabbalat Torah, or an Annual Meeting, to name but a few “firsts” that are still in the future. My colleague Barry Block has written about transition not really being finished until a rabbi has been in his or her position for two full years, and I’m inclined to believe him.


A gift from the synagogue, created by Galia Goodman

And yet, here we are, celebrating my “installation.” Lots of jokes about the similarities between rabbis and large appliances are just waiting to be made, but the truth be told, “install” is a verb that was applied to members of the clergy long before it was applied to washers and dryers. To “install” something is to put it in its stall. And clerics in the Middle Ages had semi-enclosed chairs called stalls in which they sat as a part of the choir. “Installation” was the act of getting into one’s stall for the first time. It is, essentially, the act of taking one’s seat, of settling in. Continue reading

Nostra Aerate at Fifty

D’var Torah at Judea Reform, October 30, 2015…

The Jewish-Catholic dialogue that took place in synagogue growing up made a deep impression upon me. My Rabbi, Martin Silverman, modeled a deep public friendship with the local Bishop, Howard Hubbard, exchanging pulpits on a regular basis. It is probably thanks to them that I gravitated to such dialogue in my Rabbinate. Priests and Women Religious have been my study partners and co-teachers over the years, over many pulpit exchanges and visits to each other’s classrooms. I was entrusted by the Diocese of El Paso to teach the Jewish Scriptures to Deacon candidates. I had the great honor to travel to the University of Notre Dame to be a part of small working group on interfaith dialogue, at the invitation of the Rabbi to the Fighting Irish, Michael Signer (of blessed memory). I travelled there together with one of my ongoing study partners, a Franciscan priest named John Stowe who has since been elevated to serve as Bishop of the Diocese of Lexington, Kentucky. I mention all of this not to name-drop but to give you a sense of why I feel compelled to speak tonight about Nostra Aetate.

In our time – nostra aetate – when day by day mankind is being drawn closer together, and the ties between different peoples are becoming stronger…

With those words did Pope Paul VI begin his proclamation on the relationship of the Roman Catholic Church to non-Christian religions. Nostra Aetate, “in our time.” The proclamation was issued fifty years ago, almost to the day, on October 28, 1965. This milestone anniversary affords us the opportunity to reflect on issues raised by Nostra Aetate in our time, an era in which it seems that, day by day, humanity is being pushed farther apart, and the ties between different peoples are becoming, if not weaker, certainly more strained and complicated. Continue reading



That was how Helaine would ask to be held when she was a baby. “Holjumee.” When she started saying it, it took us a little while to figure out its origins, but eventually we got it. We would hold out our arms and say, “Do you want me to hold you?” She thought “hold you” was the verb, all by itself. Thus, “Hold you me.” Or, “Holjumee.” Continue reading

Gut yuntif, pontiff(s)!

Kol Nidrei, 2015-5776

“May the words of my mouth be aligned with the meditations of my heart. May I say what I mean, and mean what I say. And may these words be what You want me to say, Source of Life, Rock, Redeemer.”

On Sunday morning, I had the honor (along with Margarita Suarez) of accompanying a group of our tenth-graders to Immaculate Heart Catholic Church. Our visit kicked off a series of field trips to houses of worship. Over the coming weeks, our students will have opportunities to observe and engage with a few different varieties of Christianity as well as with the Muslim, Buddhist, and Sikh communities. I love that we do this sort of visiting; it’s so very important.

Our students were impressed that this week’s intercessory prayers included the hope that Jews and Muslims would have fruitful celebrations of their holidays, Yom Kippur and Eid al Adcha. Father Chris also invoked God’s will that we Jews and our Muslim neighbors would continue to grow deeper in our respective faiths. And so, in that same spirit of interfaith well-wishing, allow me to join many in the American Jewish community in welcoming Pope Francis to our country. The timing of his arrival just a few hours ago couldn’t have been more perfect, as it allows us to offer him the traditional holiday greeting: “Gut yontif, pontiff!”

It’s old. It’s cute, but it’s old. And believe me, you can get that kind of humor in any synagogue in the world tonight. At Judea Reform, we aim a bit higher. And since your Rabbi had a few idle minutes in the carpool line yesterday, waiting for his son to emerge from school, we’re going to go the extra mile with an original composition, a poem in honor of

a wildly popular pontiff
who’s up in DC over yontif.
A fine Holy See
against bad policy
the planet is bearing the brunt of.

My children will tell you that I just cannot resist the opportunity to share a groaner like that one. They’ve learned to recognize them coming a mile away, and to react accordingly, by imploring me to stop…and when that fails, by leaving. And they’ll also tell you that the only thing worse than a really bad “dad joke” is when that dad joke turns into a history lesson, or God forbid, a sermon.

The Oxford English Dictionary tells us that the word pontiff comes to us from the Old French pontif. Prior to that, it existed in Latin, as pontifex. But a pontifex wasn’t a pope; he was simply a priest. The fuller term for Francis and his papal predecessors is Pontifex Maximus. As you might expect, that’s what what you find in the ancient Latin translation of the Hebrew Bible, corresponding to Kohen Gadol, or “High Priest.” Pontifex Maximus.

Now, here’s what’s fun and interesting: by the time the Bible was translated into Latin, pontifex did indeed mean “priest.” But its etymology suggests an earlier, primary meaning of “bridge builder.” Why the word for “bridge builder” came to mean “priest” is an open question: some say that the Tiber River functioned as a god in the ancient Roman religion, and the one who “tamed” it by building bridges across was seen in a special light. Others opt for a more metaphorical reading: the job of the pontifex was to build a bridge between the people and their God.

I like that second take on pontifex, which seems to be in accord with our understanding of what the descendants of Aaron, the kohanim, did for our ancestors: they served as a bridge between the laity of Israel and the Holy Blessed One. By facilitating the sacrifices (which are called korbanot in Hebrew, from the word meaning “to bring close”) they shortened the distance between people and God.

And now? We are no longer a people with priests…at least not in the ancient sense. Two thousand years ago, the sacrificial system that was the priests’ livelihood was replaced by prayer, leaving them with the first aliyah on shabbes morning, and not much else. Reform Judaism came along two hundred ago, or so, and in a bold move toward Jewish egalitarianism, did away with even that honor. Now, lest I offend the fourteen Cohens, Kahns, or Katzes on our synagogue rolls, let me be clear: to be a kohen in the twenty-first century is to cherish one’s ancestry, the fact of one’s descent from a line of servant-leaders, and that’s not nothing.

But if genealogical claims to priestly status carry less practical meaning than they once did, our obligation to be a priestly people — all of us! — has never been more important. And that is our obligation, and our aspiration. I have in mind that beautiful passage in the book of Exodus (19:4-6a), just before the Ten Commandments are given, when Moses relays God’s charge to the people. God says:

You have seen what I did to the Egyptians, how I bore you on eagles’ wings and brought you to Me. Now then, if you will obey Me faithfully and keep My covenant, you shall be My treasured possession among all the peoples. Indeed, all the earth is Mine, but you shall be to Me a kingdom of priests and a holy nation.

At our very best, when we’re faithful to our values, to our covenant, then we are transformed from a people with priests to a people of priests.

A kingdom of priests. That’s the vision so many of us have for our community. It’s what led us to step forward last week and take action in response to the Rosh Hashanah morning sermon. I mention that sermon in part to remind you that it’s not too late to indicate your willingness to join in one or more of those initiatives. The “Spiritual Pledge” to serve one another through our Caring Community Committee, the sign-up for Durham CAN and Orange County Justice United, and the action sheet related to alleviating the refugee crisis in Syria are all still available around the building. A kingdom of priests serves in those ways, for sure.

But not only in those ways. There are so many other ways our hands can reach out. As they priests of old reached out in blessing to the marginalized, even leaving the camp to be with people who needed to feel loved and included, so can we.

Tonight, I want to lift up one of those ways of extending our hands in blessing. It is our congregation’s participation in Durham’s Pride Parade this coming Saturday.

Ironic, no? A sermon using the metaphor of the priest to promote our participation in Pride? After all, it is the ancient priests who are most responsible for those biblical passages that have been used to uphold more “traditional” ways of thinking about gender and sexuality. The priests, whose spirituality was grounded in maintaining order and upholding rigid societal norms, who reveled in making lists of permitted and forbidden things….surely it is chutzpahdik of the rabbi to invoke the priests in order to bring folks out to Pride!

Maybe not. A true story: in 2009, the El Paso City Council made an adjustment to its employee manual and its operating budget, in order to extend health insurance benefits to the domestic partners of city employees, without regard to gender. Any recognized domestic partnership (this was determined by looking at joint ownership of property, bank accounts, and other things) would be the trigger to allow a spouse or partner to buy into the city’s health plan. Conservative Christians went ballistic, organized a group around the banner of “Traditional Family Values,” and began attending City Hall meetings, filling the public agenda with speech after speech. A few weeks in, yours truly arrived.

Upon walking into the chamber, I was warmly greeted by a fellow member of the clergy, an affable guy whom I genuinely liked, even though we disagreed on nearly everything. He was gushing as he grabbed my hand. “Rabbi, I just knew our Jewish brothers and sisters would show up to defend the Old Testament.”

“Actually, I’m here to speak in favor of the policy.”

“But Rabbi…what about….don’t you read….doesn’t it say….?”

I responded calmly, but firmly: “Yes, it does. But my faith isn’t only grounded in ancient text books. It’s grounded in contemporary text people as well. I have friends who are gay, and who are married with loving families. Don and Evan, a Rabbi and and Cantor couple. Julie, who has composed so much of the music we sing in my synagogue, and her wife Mary. They are my texts in this instance. And I’d like to think that the same priests who left us with the book of Leviticus and all of its lists would — if they lived today — recognize that theirs was not the last, and certainly not the best, word on the subject.”

I didn’t change his mind. He stayed on the other side of the issue, though he never really seemed to have the heart for the fight in the way some of his colleagues did. And over time, the will of the people was made clear. The Traditional Family Values Coalition lost their battle with Council. They failed in their effort to recall the mayor and the council members who stood for equality and dignity. They ran candidates against those leaders, and again, they lost in every instance. I was so proud of my city, every step of the way.

That was over five years ago, when equal marriage was but a pipe dream in so much of the nation. And now, to think that equal marriage has won the day and is the law of the land, even in places like Texas and North Carolina…there’s so much to celebrate.

And, there’s still so much to do. Employment non-discrimination is not yet the law of the land, and there are far too many places in our nation where it is perfectly legal to fire people because of their sexual orientation or their gender expression or identity. And even where the laws have changed, too many hearts have not. It is still unacceptably dangerous to be a gay or transgender kid in our society. It is still in some cases unacceptably complicated to be legally named parent of one’s own child. This kingdom of priests has work to do, building the bridges that will bring the whole world home.

Let me be explicit about something: all of this priest talk is not just a convenient rhetorical trope, a chance to play of the day’s headlines. No. I believe with every fiber of my being that if Aaron and his sons were alive today, those pursuers of peace, those bestowers of blessing, they’d be on our side, and they would march at Pride. I believe this despite the textual evidence, which is formidable. Because, whatever the the literary residue left to us of an uncompromising and zealous priesthood, there is simply no way that the Voice which said “love your neighbor as yourself” would take its stand with those who would enshrine bigotry into our Constitution, with those who would make our schools safe not for the underdogs but for their bullies. And so, to be mamlechet kohanim, a kingdom of priests, is to get out of our comfortable tabernacle — yes, even on shabbes — and to stand with Pride. We’ll gather up at 11:30 on Saturday morning at the Jewish Federation’s table, on Duke’s East Campus, and we will march.

In this way, and in so many others, we shall live out our mission as a kingdom of priests, a nation of bridge builders. We will build bridges…

To each other, through our Caring Community;
To people of color, through our community organizing work;
To refugees looking for safe harbor amidst great storms;
To folks who are lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and who have spent far too long outside the camp;
To so many others who seek a way in or simply to know that the door is open and that they are welcome;

To all of them, we offer a bridge, in the form of our outstretched hands.

Our movement’s new prayer book says it this way:

The hands of the kohanim were a language in themselves.
Hands held out, with the palms facing up, indicate the desire to receive;
hands held up, with the palms facing down, indicate the desire to give.
So, when the kohanim lifted their hands to bless,
they did not wish to pray for themselves —
but only to bestow God’s bounty on the people.

Holy One, we strive to be a nation of priests,
our lives consecrated to holy work.
Help us to use our hands as instruments of divine service —
conduits of your goodness.
May blessings flow through us to our children, our friends,
and all those whose lives we touch.

In this new year, may each of us be a priest, a pontifex, a bridge builder. And may it be that when we gather next year, no matter where in the world Francis might be, this room full of bridge builders will offer each other that special greeting as only a nation of priests can do:

Have a wonderful yontif, you room full of pontiffs!

“Our Kids”


Rosh Hashanah Morning, 5776 – Judea Reform Congregation, Durham NC…

Robert Putnam, the Harvard social scientist best known for Bowling Alone, his book about the erosion of social capital, authored a new study earlier this year. It is called Our Kids. The title hearkens back to a time when, at least in the author’s recollection, the adults in the Ohio town of his youth saw all the kids in town as “our kids.” Putnam’s claim, buttressed with loads of data (as is his way), is that the sense of shared responsibility and community that once characterized our nation has deteriorated. In its place, a vast opportunity gap has opened up in America. Multiple generations of wildly disparate educational and economic attainment are firmly entrenched, and two children growing up today are likely to lead vastly different lives based largely on accidents of birth, like their zip code or the color of their skin. Our Kids tells a story that is bad, and getting worse. Continue reading